Crying in a session: what your tears are trying to finish

Dalila still remembers that executive in his fifties, arriving in a suit, watch on his wrist, firm handshake. "I'm warning you, I'm not the emotional type." Twenty minutes into the session, lying in the half-light, he was crying. No noise, no drama. And at the end, he said the sentence she has heard a hundred times since: "I don't even know why I cried. But I feel lighter than I have in years."

We were taught to see crying as an embarrassing overflow, something to hold back, to hide, to wipe away quickly. Physiologically, it is almost the opposite. Emotional tears play a part in regulating the nervous system: they accompany the shift from a state of tension to a state of release. Crying is often the body finally finishing something it had been holding in. In fact, most people describe afterwards a feeling of inner cleanness, like after a summer storm: the air is easier to breathe than before.

Normally, the mind stands guard. It filters, it controls, it keeps up the character. During a guided breathing session, that control loosens: the breath keeps the mind busy, the sound wraps around you, the body feels safe. Then what had been held back for months, sometimes years, finds the way out. Tears for some, uncontrollable laughter for others, trembling, one immense sigh. What the head holds back, the body lets go. Without words.

Yes, and it is actually common. An emotional release does not need a story attached. You don't have to know where your tears come from for them to do their work. That is one of the big differences from a talking-based approach: here there is nothing to tell, nothing to analyse, nothing to justify. The body knows what it is doing. Let's be clear about one thing: if a deep or long-standing suffering resurfaces, appropriate therapeutic or medical care remains the right path, and breathing comes as a complement.

You have nothing to do. That may be the hardest instruction for people who manage everything. Don't hold back, don't force, don't analyse. Let the wave pass, it rarely lasts more than a few minutes, and keep following the voice. Nobody is watching you, everyone is on their own journey. Many describe the aftermath as an inner silence unlike anything before, lower shoulders, a deep night's sleep that very evening. As if the body, once emptied of that overflow, could finally get on with what it does best: recovering.

If you sense that something in you has been waiting a long time for this permission, give it a safe space to land. That is exactly what an immersion offers: come and talk about it or book your place via the contact page.

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